Writing with Care: A Thoughtful Approach to Sympathy Notes

Since introducing our red cardinal to the Fig & Dove collection, we’ve heard the same story again and again. Customers share that they’re choosing it not just as a decorative piece, but as a meaningful gift for someone walking through grief—a friend, a family member, a loved one who needs comfort when words feel hard to find.

For many, the red cardinal carries deep symbolism. It’s often said that when a cardinal appears, it’s a gentle sign from those we’ve lost—a reminder that love remains close, even after loss. That belief resonates deeply with our team as well, and it’s what makes this small, thoughtful piece so meaningful to give and receive.

As more of our cardinals are chosen as sympathy gifts—whether as an ornament to hang or a sculpted keepsake to display—we’re often asked a related question: What should I write in a sympathy note?

Keep It Simple. Keep It Sincere.

When it comes to sympathy notes, there is no perfect wording. In fact, the most meaningful messages are often the simplest ones.

The purpose of a sympathy card isn’t to ease grief or offer answers—it’s simply to acknowledge loss and let someone know they are not alone. A few honest lines can mean far more than a long message filled with carefully chosen phrases.

A thoughtful sympathy note often includes:

• An expression of sympathy for the loss

• Acknowledgment of the person who has passed

• A brief memory or sentiment, when appropriate

• A reminder that the recipient is in your thoughts or prayers

A Simple Example

If it helps, a note might read something like this:

Dear Julie,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. I know how much he meant to you, and I hope you find comfort in the memories you shared. Please know you’re in my thoughts during this difficult time.
With love,
(Your name)

There’s no need to say everything. Saying something—with care—is enough.

A Few Gentle Guidelines to Keep in Mind

Choose a simple card.
While it can be tempting to select a card filled with poetry or lengthy verses, a simple card leaves space for your own words to carry meaning. The message you write is what will be remembered.

Write by hand.
Even if it’s been a while, a handwritten note carries warmth and sincerity that can’t be replicated. In moments of loss, that personal touch matters.

Offer support with intention.
Instead of saying, “Let me know if you need anything,” consider offering something specific—a meal, help with errands, childcare, or simply time together. Specific kindness often feels more manageable during grief.

When You Include a Gift

If you choose to include a gift with your note, a brief explanation can make it even more meaningful. Many people find comfort in tangible reminders—something they can see, touch, and return to.

For some, the cardinal serves as that reminder. Whether displayed year-round as a sculpted keepsake or hung as an ornament in a familiar place, it becomes a quiet symbol of hope and remembrance—one that lingers long after the card is read.

Showing Up with Care

Grief is deeply personal, and there’s no single right way to offer comfort. But taking the time to write a note, choose a thoughtful gesture, and show up with intention can mean more than we often realize.

Sometimes, the smallest offering—given with care—speaks the loudest.

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